Failing at online dating?

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There are plenty of fish in the sea, you just need to be good at fishing!

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People make the same mistakes day after day when it comes to online dating. How can you expect your outcome to change if you never change your approach?

So, how can you enhance your online dating profile?

You need good photos. Photos are the one thing that can set you apart from the rest. Bright, happy, facing-forward photo subjects are more likely to see more matches on a dating website. Trust! A good photo is endearing, lets people draw common ground with you and the photo should show you off! Not sure if your photos are any good? Try DATEnhance for feedback and expert opinion. Even if you think your photos are OK, you cant beat a second opinion! 

What kind of photos should I include?

Try and use individual photos where possible. Adding other people is distracting, confusing and honestly - they can get their own dates! This is about you. Group photos actually do not perform well on dating apps, and if you have a cracking photo, put it lower down on your list of photos on your profile.

Use a photo taken by someone else. Not only does this show you are out with friends without the use of group photo, but avoids the risk of terrible angles and forced poses. Selfies are a fun, silly way of capturing a moment, but save them for snapchat and use a proper photo on your dating profile.

Show your personality as best you can through photos. A good bio is irrelevant if your photos are terrible as having good photos will lead people to your bio. 

OK, my photos are sorted, I have feedback, what next?

Your bio is the next part. Under no circumstances should this ever be left blank. An incomplete profile will lose you so many matches, don't risk it! 

Don't worry about being the funniest person in the room but try and ensure your bio is short, snappy, and original. It can be good to include a conversation starter or 'ice breaker' such as: "Im new in town, where is the best pizza place?" That way, if someone wants to message you they already have something to lead with. 

The scary part, sending the first message...

I wish we had all the answers here, but there will never be a one-size-fits-all method. We can give guidance, however. 

Be personal. If you see a photo of someone travelling to a place you would love to visit, ask about it! Or if they like a sport you also like, that is a perfect way to talk about something you both have in common. Pickup lines can be cheesy, but they can be funny and effective. Sending a simple 'Hi' may work in some instances, but the more effort you put into the initial message, the more likely the other person is to respond. Again, if you cannot think of anything funny to say, do not stress, saying something is always better than saying nothing at all!

Managing expectations

We are not going to pretend like online dating is easy, because we know first hand that it is not. Rejection and ghosting are the harsh reality of putting yourself out there. It can feel frustrating and may feel as though you are not making progress. The more effort you put into your profile the better the response will be. Have fun with online dating, at current it is the only way to meet people. Pluck up the courage to have a video chat and a few glasses of wine, talk about silly things even just for company. Take the pressure off and you will start to enjoy online dating a whole lot more.

Good things take time, and it will happen for you provided you follow the guidelines.

There are always exceptions to these "rules", do what feels best for you, whilst showing yourself off to the best of your ability. Be confident, you are great and you just need to show the world that.

There are plenty of fish in the sea... you just need to be good at fishing! 

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